re: Jimmy Chen’s (very funny) obit for this site, and some comments made there by my friends Tadd Adcox and Rebekah Silverman, not to mention Big Other’s recent one-year anniversary, I thought I’d take some time and a post to perform some autocritique. (I grew up on the campus of the University of Scranton, among the Jesuits.)
When John invited me to write at Big Other last December, my first impulse was to decline, because I didn’t think that I’d have anything interesting to say. I’ve been reading blogs periodically since the late 90s (mainly political ones), and while I value the form for various reasons, I never thought I’d want to try doing it myself. But then John said I could write literary criticism in lieu of more traditional posts, and I recalled that I wanted to try doing some analysis of Batman: The Dark Knight Returns, so I said I’d give it a go.
And I’m extremely happy that I did, because I’ve discovered that I do, in fact, have a tremendous amount to say (probably too much, in fact). And so my posting here has awakened something inside me—before this past year, I’d never written any artistic or cultural criticism—I didn’t even think I was capable of doing it. (I just wrote fiction and poetry.)
So I’m extremely grateful. That said, I’m also unhappy in multiple ways with my writing here, and I want to take the time to identify those problems, and attempt to correct them…
When I first started posting at Big Other, I wrote down three rules for myself (and these were rules that I made just for myself; I don’t want to imply that they should be rules for anyone else):
- No cheer-leading. Honest and carefully thought-through statements only.
- No just linking to stuff I liked and saying, “Hey, this is cool.” If I wanted to call something cool, I would have to try and say why, specifically. I’d also try to contextualize it somehow, because there’s just so much cool stuff out there, it’s fairly overwhelming. And who likes being overwhelmed?
- No brief posts, and no stand-alone posts. (My original idea was that everything I wrote should be part of an ongoing series.) …This one may strike some as odd, but one of the things that I don’t really like about blogging (and the present day in general) is how scattered and fragmented so much information is. I think that a general obsession with brevity (a dominant!) is one of the factors behind that, and so I made a conscious decision to write deliberately long posts, and to connect what I wrote with other writing as often as I could (both my previous posts and other writing elsewhere). My goal was to always provide context, and to slowly build developing lines of thought.
Again, I’m relatively happy with how things have gone, and I think I’ve done a decent job adhering to these self-imposed constraints. The problem, however, is that both good and bad has come from adhering to them, and in the constant going forward I want to come to terms with the bad, and overturn it.
Simply put, on many occasions over the past year, I’ve been rude, insensitive, peevish, and, yes, cranky. I’ve also been overly critical (“no cheer-leading”), overly serious (“no just saying ‘this is cool’), and, most problematically, long-winded and overbearing. As Tadd put it:
Also, it’s possible that people don’t comment so much on Big Other because of how overwhelming some of the posts are. I’m thinking of AD Jameson’s tendency to make a claim and then support it with every single piece of evidence for this claim to be found either on the internet or in the writings of Shklovsky. The thing is, he talks like that, too. It’s pretty impressive/phenomenal/terrifying.
And as Rebekah added:
The overwhelmingness of AD is overwhelming.
Tadd and Rebekah, I don’t know how critical you were intending to be, but you’re both right. And I can see how my desire to thoroughly develop thoughts and connect them, while laudable for some reasons, is at the same exact time also a form of insecurity, part of a reflexive self-defensiveness, an innate desire to always be right. And that’s no good.
(Although, guys! It’s “A D”! With a space! And without initials! …Actually, I’ve kind of given up on anyone spelling my silly fake name right; serves me right for making it up in the first place.)
I’ve actually been thinking something similar to Tadd and Rebekah for a while now, and while I rather like being impressive and phenomenal, I rather don’t like the thought of being either terrifying or overwhelming (either online or in person). I’ve sometimes wondered what I would make of my own posts were I another person reading them, and my conclusion is that they’re the kind of thing I’d probably want to write something in response to, and plan to write something in response to, and then never write anything in response to. And I certainly wouldn’t enjoy it if I did take the time to respond, and then the author (myself, of course) replied with what amounted to another extremely long post in the comments section. What a pain in the ass!
In other words, my behavior here has been violating my second rule, and the spirit of the third one, both of which I formulated specifically so as not to overwhelm people. Funny that.
In addition, I’ve at times simply been plain rude in some of my comments, in particular in responses I’ve made to commentators Mike Kitchell and Douglas Storm, and to my fellow Big Otherers Shya Scanlon, Michael Leong, and Greg Gerke. (Forgive me not linking to any examples, but I’m embarrassed.) Well, I deeply regret that, and my only (feeble) explanation is that there’s just something about the internet that pisses me off. I resent the damn thing the entire time I’m using it, even as I find it pretty useful (and enjoyable to use). And, I must confess, there are other times when I was unreasonably projecting my own personal set of rules onto others, wishing that they’d reply in the same spirit—even though I certainly don’t think that anyone else should care about those rules! (Talk about passive aggressiveness!) And, all this said, those frustrations with the internet and with blogs are my problems, and my concerns and anxieties, and they shouldn’t be anyone else’s. And so I’m sorry, Mike and Douglas and Shya and Michael and Greg, for my behavior. I do love talking with all five of you, and I appreciate your taking the time to talk with me, even when I wasn’t being pleasant.
So how to do better? I think it’s time for me to set down three new, additional (personal) rules:
- Lighten up a little. This can include many things: being more playful in what I post, experimenting more with the site itself, remembering that people often post and respond in a hasty and casual fashion (even if I myself don’t like doing that), trying to respond in a hastier and more casual fashion myself, and above all asking more questions of others, rather than just always stating what I think.
- No more super-long posts. I still plan to write very long things—I think it’s good to develop ideas, and to follow lines of thought as far as I can—but I also want to try both being more succinct, as well as breaking up what would before have been longer posts into more digestible chunks. (I can still make it all add up with links—and this way, there’s more opportunity to others to join in along the way.)
- No more rudeness! This last one is very important to me. I’ll still be critical (I’m afraid that I can’t help that), but, really, there’s no excuse for being churlish. Like our poorly departed Boxer, I must work harder.
A final note: I thought for a long time about whether I should post any of this, and there’s a way in which I do think it’s narcissistic. (I’m not fishing for compliments or reaffirmations, folks.) These are personal reflections and resolutions—can’t I just set all this down for myself, as I did my first set of guiding principles?
However, by joining “the play and fray as a regular contributor” at Big Other (as John originally put the invitation to me), I’ve joined a community, and I value that community; I value all of you as my colleagues and as my friends. And I want to respect and to help strengthen that community. And so I think it makes some sense to share my thoughts along these lines. (Does it?)
And so. Thanks again to Jimmy and Tadd and Rebekah for the feedback; and thanks again to John Madera for making all of this possible; and thanks again to Douglas and Mike and Shya and Michael and, above all, Greg. Greg, you’re too sweet for words. My most sincere love to all of you, and my most sincere love to everyone else out there in the coming year. May it be a great one.
25 thoughts on “Autocritique”
ADJ, this maybe my favorite thing you’ve posted. seriously. i like the introspection, the openness to self-analyzing (something many of us do in the confines of our own brains). i think we probably have a lot in common. and it took a lot for me to come to a point where i was able to separate myself from some things. i went from being very serious about everything to not being serious about much. for me, i lost the energy for it, honestly. i felt pressure from myself to be something particular and it took a toll on me and how i related to the world. since i’ve let that pressure go there’s still other pressures, still other effects on how i exist with everything around me, but it feels a bit lighter.
anyway my point is: amen. keep doing what you’re doing, but do it in a way you’re comfortable with, a way that makes you happy. i appreciate the openness you exhibit.
No worries, Adam — I never interpreted anything you said as rude…stubborn, well, that’s another matter… ; )
But really — this is all in the spirit of healthy discussion — it’s all good. No need to apologize.
Adam, let me concur w/ Michael — I don’t recall any gratuitous rudeness or meanness. Otherwise, my thanks. When I was asked to be a contributor, the thing that encouraged me most was that Big Other provided space to develop perceptions, to try & render some sense out of the internetted chaos.
Oh &, about that title…
“Criticism/Self-criticism” is a ritual for any good Marxist cell, a session held as often as every evening among true believers. The group sits down for open critique & autocritique.
No doubt Che & Fidel got it from the Jesuits too, though.
Years ago, I found out that some people apparently find me scary. I don’t know, maybe they’re right. But in a sense that’s rather flattering. I certainly didn’t worry about it, nor have I let it change the way I write or behave.
Your long posts are fascinating, so is your rigor. Don’t impose too many rules on yourself, it restricts how and what you write, and that would be your loss as much as ours.
If you like, let’s just keep a grumpy corner of the blog all to ourselves, and pretend that’s where the real cool kids hang out.
Thanks Adam. I think we’re kind of here to stretch the bounds and if it means talking about ourselves while serving another purpose it seems we should do that. The spirit of the times.
I tried to do that in the Byron Katie post and turn my issues into everyone’s issues, http://bigother.com/2010/10/18/byron-katie-helps-me-through-an-age-old-assumption/
I think I had one comment and that made me more angry.
For what it’s worth, Adam, I’ve frequently enjoyed being overwhelmed by you. Vigorous and thorough analysis of a given subject has some kind of strange appeal to me (why that is, I do not know; brain chemistry most likely). So, while I permit you to lighten it up a little, don’t quit the rigorousness of your inquiry (not that you’ve suggested you plan to). That’s why I read Big Other and not so much HTML Giant in the first place.
Hmmm, never mind my re-written repeat of the above below. The computer I was on was delayed in posting my comment . . . or something?
Definitely appreciate the introspection here, Adam, but I do hope you keep up with the rigorous and thorough analysis that’s become your hallmark. (I know that you haven’t in this post suggested you plan to do otherwise, but as some other commentators have noted, too many restrictions can result in undesired effects.) But yeah, Big Other is great because it isn’t like the rest of the Internet. It’s more academic, cerebral, challenging than the alternatives (HTML Giant comes to mind). So just don’t forget that. But yes, I might be more inclined to comment on your posts if I felt you had left a leaf unturned, which I rarely do.
First off, A SPACE D, you are wonderful. I love you. Wholeheartedly. I miss seeing you around. WE LIVE IN THE SAME CITY, FOR GOODNESS’ SAKE.
Secondly, this is possibly the most-thoughtful, and, dare I say, LONGEST self-critique about writing things that are long and overwhelming that I have ever read.
Thirdly, you will always overwhelm me, and the way in which you overwhelm me will always be overwhelming, because our areas of expertise are SO FAR APART. Therefore: you know – in extreme detail – things about which I know literally nothing.
Totally meant it as a compliment. Though it’s worth pointing out that this is a fairly long post, for a post talking about how maybe your posts won’t be so long anymore.
Here I feel compelled to use a smiley emoticon, to show that I am gently ribbing you: :)
THIS WAS A GOOD POST. WHAT ARE YOU DOING FOR HALLOWEEN. LET’S RIDE BIKES SOMETIME.
I read my RSS feed in the shower every morning, because I’m a crazy person. I always save BO for last, since I find it to be the one blog that inspires me to do the most thought-provoking analysis of the things I’ve read, the things I’ve seen and the things I think.
I always look forward to your posts, A D, and I want you change nothing about them, besides what you must change to feel more self-fulfilled.
now i feel overwhelming. or wordy.
Thanks for all the comments, everyone! And don’t worry, I still intend to write loooong posts, long analytical critical detailed posts. But I want to find a way to do that while making them more communicative and interactive, and less me droning on and on and on for pages at a time, taxing both the reader and myself. I think that breaking such stuff up into smaller posts, and spacing them out somewhat, is one way to do that.
For instance, the fourth part of the “Looking at Movements” series thing I’m doing, which looks at New Wave, will be plenty long, so I’ll try breaking it up into two or three things.
A SPACE D
Confidential to RS and TA in Chicago: Yes! Let’s get together again soon! I feel like I haven’t seen anyone in a while… Too bad there isn’t a holiday or any parties this weekend.
I know, right?
WHAT ARE YOU ALL DOING WHERE ARE YOU GOING TEXT ME
I’m really sorry, this is what I get like at the end of a work day.
I don’t have a working cell phone. Email!
that’s why you aint text me back bitch
A Space D, I used to have a little crush on you because I found you genuinely kind, wicked intelligent, yet aloof, introverted, seemingly “unknowable,” perhaps even a bit oblivious (at times) to external stimuli, and also tall with nice arms and other parts.
Tim: You must not know Adam if you think he’s aloof and introverted. But you are right, he is the most genuinely kind person I’ve EVER met–he has not one bad thing to say about anyone else, which makes me feel wicked–and extremely intelligent. Tall and nice arms too. Plus, he is a grand cook.
No, Lily, I’ve always been aloof and wicked to Tim.
And I’ve yet to reveal my true height. (I always slouch.)
I just saw this — I think what I perhaps meant, more than “aloof” or “introverted,” was that I find him radically self-contained.
And also I often feel very LOUD around him.
I’ve enjoyed your posts, Adam…