I wonder who pr is?

“I recently had an email discussion with a female writer who I greatly admire and we discussed writing about sex. There are exceptions- but- when women do it, it’s “erotica”. (Think Nin.) When men do, well, they’re engaging in a literary way with something deep and profound. When I write about motherhood- I get called a bad mother by editors, both male and female mind you. (I guess that’s better than “mommy-lit” of which I’ve never been accused.) When Ray Carver writes dark, unhappy stories about his family (and I LOVE Ray Carver’s writing), he gets awards.”

Granted I don’t work in some high-profile profession that might demand more in the way of expensive clothing and some sort of makeup, but I’m probably in the majority there.

I like my sleep! I’m not adopting any ritual that takes away from it in the morning.

Paula — not a joke, I think. I highlighted the portion I did because it gave me a funny image and because it’s very true of my relationship with my partner — we’re enormously silly people, and my parents occasionally accuse us of not wanting to grow up. (This is not a false accusation, really.)

pr — I know what you mean; these things can be MUCH more annoying from people who should know better!

Jeff — I probably read your post too quickly. A few of the points raised made me wonder how someone who was single, or poly, or a mom, or whatever, would execute them. I’m sorry I misrepresented your intentions.

Carolyn Bly has a great book called The Passionate, Accurate Story in which she talks about play and the imagination, pretty much supporting that point above–it’s a great writing book, highly recommended.

JeffV